Divorce is difficult at any age, but for those who are sixty and above, it can be heartbreaking. It’s a challenge that many women today have to deal with and it is believed that at least half of women in this age group have been divorced at least once in their lifetime. It can take months to get back into the swing of things and feel remotely normal again. What’s even worse, it can take years after the divorce to regain trust and self-confidence.
We took to the members of a popular dating site for mature folks to see what kind of advice they have to offer those who are newly divorced.
Tracy: “I was mourning the marriage I lost. I knew that it would never go back to the way it was no matter how much I wished it would. I would let my friends comfort me as best as they could. You would be surprised by how much their support helped me through that difficult time in my life.”
Hallie: “I went through almost a year of grief, sadness, and feeling lost until I renewed my faith, restructured my life, and reconnected with old friends.”
Shelly: “The loss will be so much more than just your spouse. You tend to lose family members and friends too. Try to keep believing in yourself and live as fully as you can, even though your heart feels shattered.”
Candy: “When it comes to dating again, go for it! After your mourning period, get back out there and date. Just remember that not all men are the same!”
Mary: “Although you may be looking forward to the divorce finally being over, you may be caught by surprise when it really is over. Take your time working through it so you can get on with your life.”
Emma: “Use this time to rediscover hobbies and passions that may have fallen to the wayside. Use this time to do all of the things you wanted to do but didn’t have the time because you were devoted to your marriage.”
Regina: “After my divorce, I hadn’t realized how much I changed while I was married. You’ll find that when you’re single again, you’ll find bits and pieces of yourself you forgot about.”
Catherine: “Divorce grants you the ability to experience life anew. You can meet new people, travel, give your life a complete overhaul if you want. The possibilities are limitless.”
Michelle: “Understand that being alone is better than being with just anyone.”
Kate: “You aren’t the only person going through or have gone through a divorce. Don’t be afraid to seek out other women who have walked in your shoes. We understand the pain you’re going through. It will be okay.”
Agatha: “It’s never too late to make a fresh beginning. You’ll want to give yourself the chance to reflect of your situation, but once the pain has subsided, go ahead and live again with new vigor.”
Fae: “Don’t expect to find the same kind of love you had when you were younger. Your hormones have changed a lot since your 20s or 30s, and so has a man’s. Cut yourself some slack!”